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Hi All

I am a single mum to 5 children & this year I hit 40. In my late teens I was sent to a psychiatrist who diagnosed me as having an "extreme personality" - I was told that thinking at that time was that nothing could be done and as I got older the symptoms would lessen. The roller coaster ride was too much for my ex husband and we got divorced 10 years ago.

I have just separated from my current partner last week. We have been together on and off for 5 years now. Our relationship hasn't been the easiest both his parents and grandmother died within a 2 year period and his drinking escalated. I supported him as best I could pointing him towards AA which he has done well with (7 months sober) whilst trying to bring up 5 children on my own ( including our son who was born as his father discovered he was terminally ill).

I have seen a therapist and worked on my own borderline traits taking anti -depressants at times and genuinely thought I was improving. He walked out last Monday and says despite loving me sees no way forward as I am incapable of change. When my marriage ended 10 years ago I fell apart for 2 years as my ex husband had been "everything" to me; I have deliberately made sure I do not make my partner the centre of my universe so that I do carry on without him.

So that's me really I work from home, have few friends and feel socially isolated most of the time but my youngest starts school this year full time so I know that I will have the time to improve that this year. Hope to get to know some of you!

lilpumpkin xx

Thanx calista living with an alcoholic has had some beneficial effects like trying to take life one day at a time!


lilpumpkin x

Hi lilpumpkin -- glad you found us!

Thanx sari I hope I can contribute positively to the forum

lilpumpkin x