Separation of StuffObserving boundaries and interpersonal borders
Understanding the distinction between personal boundaries is crucial for the success of your other tools. Separation of stuff is the fulcrum from which all the other tools operate.
Oftentimes, on the discussion forums, this separation of stuff will be listed out with words as:
My Stuff <~~~ || ~~~> Your Stuff
Seeing the words can sometimes help us to remember that just because we feel something doesn't make it the truth, reality or the other person's perception or understanding of the situation.
On the next page is an excerpt from "Putting the Pieces Together" which should illustrate (with more words) the essence of separating stuff.