Written and submitted by Ellen Kozisek
People obsessions seem to be something that some (not all) people with BPD deal with. It's something I've dealt with, and I thought I'd share how the tools we talk about here at BPDR have helped me move beyond the obsession. It wasn't always sitting down looking at the list of tools and applying them. Still, these ideas have been a big help to me.
I don't want to give much detail on the relationship. I want to focus on my stuff, and how different tools helped me. I will note, this person was neither a therapist, nor a significant other. Nor was it someone who wanted me to stay away from him.
While each situation, and each type of situation, is different, I feel like many of these ideas can apply to other obsessive relationships.
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5 Steps & HALT
Separation of Stuff
The Ten Forms of Twisted Thinking
Ten Ways to Untwist Your Thinking
Vertical Arrow Technique
Ant Killing & Positive Self Talk