hey gothicminx,
welcome here

I'm also quite new here, been around this board for less than a year.
What I found helpful was browsing around the forum, reading other people's posts and sharing, and using some of that to reflect on my own self...
And feel free to post and share, and receive some feedback from the community, which can help you to reflect better.
Most of all, check out the tools section

Happy working on your recovery!