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Hi.
I need help.
I'm in a new relationship, and I am unstable right now. I believe he's breaking it off (not 100% sure), but at the very least, he is not as as committed to me as I thought he was. Soooo I am filled with hatred right now and want to lash out at him viciously. I am so scared of how I am going to handle being abandoned. I cant handle it. I am very anxious and very very scared. I am at the clingy/hate stage. I just cant go through this alone!!! Someone please hold my hand! I cant think straight right now.

Hi dee2-

Well, it may feel like you can't think straight, but it sounds like you've actually got quite a good insight already:



That you are even able to see this as a stage in a process is good!

Being able to step out of your feelings for a minute and look at them, analyze them, classify them, is the first step to getting off the rollercoaster of just riding them

What does the process look like? How many times have you been through it?